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Step I: Core Values and Character
A. Who are you, really?
B. Sometimes Wanting is better than Having
C. What do you REALLY want?
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Most goal books have you list your goals, or wants. And then you figure out how to get them.
This process is backwards.
Because we make a list, do all the work, and then . . . when we accomplish the goals, we feel . . .
NOTHING!
Or worse, we feel bummed out, b/c all of the excitement and fun of pursuing the goal is now gone.
And what we are left with-- what we told ourselves we
really, really wanted--
Is not something we really needed.
Before I started using this process, I found time and again that when I WANTED something in the worst way,
I could almost taste it!
But then when I finally got it, I never used it. Or I just didn't feel the same way about it that I did before I had it.
The thrill was gone.
Wanting was better than having.
If this happens, there is a disconnect with what you
think you want, and who you really are.
(classic example: Girl or guy who is always complaining that they're "attracted to the wrong guy/girl".)
Their "wants" (sexy bod, great car, what their friends think) does not line up with their "needs" (comfort, wit, security, being at ease).
So the first thing we do is try to get your WANTS in line with who you are-- your CORE values/traits.
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Start here:
Define your CORE values.
The qualities or things that make you who you are.
These are the ones I see from you so far:
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I LOVE to create.
I LOVE to see my ideas in motion and to see that they work.
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Here's an example of someone else's CORE values/traits:
http://www.thefastlanetomillions.com...11&postcount=6
Have fun!
-Russ H.