Common Mistakes Made when Asking For Advice

Originally Posted by AroundTheWorld

The road to financial freedom requires us to learn new behaviors, learn from others, expand our minds, and network.

It can feel like a lonely road at times.... the people all around us think we are crazy. Perhaps they don't understand the deals we do or the 'risks' we take on. They may argue with us or otherwise be un supportive. That is part of the reason we have so many active participants on a board such as the fastlane. It feels so refreshing to find like minded individuals! It feels so nice to find successful people that are willing to take the time to answer our questions and write helpful posts!

When we do finally find successful, like minded individuals, it is an amazing opportunity to learn - and to perhaps ask for advice.

Here are some of the mistakes I have either made, witnessed, or experienced in the 'ask for advice' area.

1. ASK TOO MUCH. It is one thing to ask for a point in the right direction. It is another thing entirely to ask for a partnership on a huge project. If you are asking for something from a very successful person - - - it likely also means they are a very BUSY person. Be respectful of their time and only ask for a little.
   
2. ARGUE. It is difficult to be open minded and arrogant at the same time. If you know it all, then why are you asking? If you don't know it all, and you must not if you are asking for advice, than be humble enough to listen respectfully to the response you get.
   
3. ASK THEM TO HOLD YOUR HAND. If you are given some valueable information or food for thought - then it is time for you to run with it. They won't do it for you. The plan must be yours and you must execute it.
   
4. FAIL TO FOLLOW UP. If they took the time to help you, then follow up with a thank you. If you have experienced a success since your encounter - let them know!
   
5. ASK THE WRONG PERSON. If you have a legal question, don't ask a web site developer. You will waste their time, and your own.